Sunday, February 13, 2011

Righting Valentine's Day

'Right' is a whole lot better than this new phenomenon: living in the abstract - living on the fence - living in the subjective - living outside of self while regulating self to a vulnerable state - living while simultaneously presenting self as an insecure object ready to be used - living as if life exist to take people for granted or to be taken for granted.

We have to re-apply Right to the universe - not only on the day nationally identified for Lovers - but each and every day that we live in self and an outside of self…The mask that we wear! Makes you wonder who you are sleeping with?

If not, it -life and love- will be devoured by a reckless liberalized agenda that supports a 'do as you please mindset'.

We see the trinkets of this substandard living in marriage and other forms of commitment. Approved infidelity i.e. indirect swinger acceptance for the man. Communication avoidance i.e. break up emails and text messages. And, the conveniently played emotional abuse: Silence - are only a few vices of relationship.

Right is loud! Bold! Highlighted! Ultimately and rightfully, Right is a relic blissfulness waiting to be incorporated by the modern generations.

Right to me in many ways is reflective of a good down-home tradition - eating together as a Fam. Taking a Sunday drive w/ the Fam or with your valentine.

Being chivalrous for no reason, and not opening the car door to receive sex vouchers e.g.
The old-time tradition was Right. It was moral, decent, simple - it was worthy of a rose.

If I were to receive a rose today from a valentine, know that the giver represents my wants and desires. And, when I happen to not fall in but embrace love for the second time my sweet valentine will want:

Tradition

Just like me...

Enjoy this day, and all the others.

Friday, January 28, 2011

The Great Anticipation, Meeting Sister

Oprah did it again!

She cannot be touched. Her unquantifiable contribution to the world is unmatched. Her energetic drive to unselfishly give of herself is phenomenal. The unconditional love she shares and produces will never be reduced or eliminated.

Oprah Winfrey is a Legend.

She is doing what each of us can do:
We don't need her money to do it! All we have to do is keenly focus on how we want to be remembered, and live accordingly.

With great anticipation, the world waited for Monday's show. Then as the world watched the heroine did something that has made so many of us pause, reflect, and become village investigators. We began to investigate our family trees, or should I say we began to dissect our webbed families. We became intrigued with family. And, we became passionately tangled up with thoughts of what we will find in the near future or tangled up with what we have found in the past four days.
An atmosphere has been framed for people to compassionately think about family and what family really means despite the dynamic complexities: infidelity, molestation, incest, skin complexion division, choice of religion, substance abuse, money, and various other developments that may cause familial breakdown.

Surprisingly, many of my confidants have pledged not to use "half sister and half brother" any longer. That in itself is a rejuvenated beginning. The necessary beginning of mending hearts and removing pain. Oprah Winfrey has us rolling with a purpose, and with an expectation of irreplaceable:
We are familiar with this song. It is an unfortunate – but - accurate indictment on men from all walks of life that decided to lay up any and everywhere. Leaving his seed pleasingly planted in the wombs of God's Greatest Creation:

The Female
Therefore, resulting in Papa becoming daddy to girls and boys all over the world. Also, resulting in brothers and sisters never meeting. While I do not condone this reality, I do support that element that has been missing for such a very long time:

The Search for Brother and Sister

Some will stay focused on the Papa was a Rolling Stone paragraph with negativity, and with undeniable pain. The pain is understandable. I acknowledge that!

What I recognize and accept too is the possibility of reconciliation and restoration. We have to restore what has been broken. Torn-up and destroyed. We have an opportunity to reconnect or connect with the seeds that have become Flower Children. We have to forge a bond with the sister and brother we never knew. We have to honor the legendary moms that endured, pressed on when Papa rolled out.

Ultimately, we have to learn from this week's Great Anticipation.

Wasn't it worth it? Don't you feel good? Aren't you ready to be ONE with your sibling(s)?

Seek out, find, and love what was lost - and remember that you are Half of NOTHING.

-Touched

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Did Your Snow Days Bring Darkness?

I am so surprised by the number of people that have expressed how "tired they are of being stuck at home". The disclosure has been more than the usual cabin fever itches. I certainly understand the want and need to receive the daylight. The people that I have communicated with are actually uncomfortable with the solitude, the loneliness, and the quietness. That in itself speaks volumes about the shallow depth of human psyche. Sadly, it also indicates how much we have moved away from Aboriginal traditions. Meaningless Modernity (reality television) has conquered Spiritual Simplicity (meditation).


The mind can recklessly wonder when there is nothing to do. It can play tricks on you too - but the plus that should be gained during Snow Days is way more valuable than having something to do. Also, it has been noted for years that a whole lot of sexual intercourse is had during inclement weather. I remember while serving in the Eastern Caribbean how the population rose nine months after a hurricane. Go have sex!

Returned Peace Corps volunteers talk all the time about their service abroad...Sometimes too damn much! The common denominator in their story telling is their initial struggle with 'having nothing to do'. That Nothing has been known to early terminate the experience of living and serving overseas. However, in time while truly living in small villages in Botswana and other Peace Corps host countries the returned Peace Corps volunteers grew to appreciate The Nothing. It is during those very moments of Nothing that these men and women from all walks of life conducted an inventory reflection. For some that Nothing has literally made them better and/or saved their lives. For me, my life was finally put into context with the help of Buddhist Chant and Meditation.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A1evxMA7yYw

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CR3dM-GlZK8&feature=related

When was the last time outside of two minutes after the clock striking midnight on New Year’s Eve that you 'took some stock'? Really examined the inventory within your life reservoir? This is always a challenge for me!

Like the Peace Corps volunteers serving all over this world - as I typed are doing and as you read - we (us bored Americans) should sit in the dark. Actually, some Peace Corps volunteers live without indoor plumbing and electricity for 27 months or more. They are living like the people:
Then you have those ‘pussy-foot’ volunteers who lived LARGE:
That would be me…

Sitting in Darkness is Doing Something. It is an opportunity for us to make every attempt to SEE ourselves in the Dark.

What did you see over the past three Snow Days? Or, did you avoid The Darkness? If you did, you may have just missed out on Doing Something.

Oh! You could have used your imagination too; I went for a swim.


Muata Nowe

Monday, November 1, 2010

Dreaming with Seniors


When one genuinely cares for the elderly the caring displays respect and honor of those who paved the way.


Jeremy Bloom does not have to do what he does. He is a popular man with money. But, he has decided to help dreams come true by working with men and women we refer to as senior.

Touching, Truly Touching

http://abcnews.go.com/WNT/video/olympic-skier-makes-dreams-true-elderly-grants-wishes-jeremy-bloom-jeremy-hubbard-11998692  

Jeremy’s Foundation:

http://www.seniorwish.org/

Thursday, October 7, 2010

The Peace Corps will be 50 Years Old Next Year

The Peace Corps is when it all changed for me. My life changed. I became a new person. The people I met…Amazing men and women! So much courage. So much heart. To be a part of the Peace Corps Family is my badge. I wear it with honor. I will defend my experience and my service with my life. Nothing will ever take the place of those 2years (1994-1996). My love is strong for John F. Kennedy’s baby, Peace Corps.


http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/3032619/#39546419

It is Touching, Truly Touching to view this video. The memories come back like a tsunami. I remember my first night. My first home stay family in St. Lucia, The Browns. Then my Antiguan home stay family, The Scholl’s. Myrna, my mother a way from North Carolina. Alan, Leslie, and Brian – my brothers. Love…Service…Sacrifice…Dedication…

The pictures...
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/39173126/ns/nightly_news/

Brian E. Payne

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Finding Father

I am definitely not one to say that ‘God works in mysterious ways’…this story may not be a coincidence. What I will admit: Nothing is Random. I learned that the hard way a few years ago - thanks to Reverend Wilkins.
What a Touching, Truly Touching story:

http://www.nydailynews.com/ny_local/2010/09/03/2010-09-03_terminal_cancer_patient_reunited_with_long_lost_daughter_who_turns_out_to_be_hos.html  

Brian E. Payne sharing.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Praying that My Prayers are Answered

*Haiti needs a reason to Dance*

I wish I could say a Haiti prayer that would be answered – and wake-up to news that Haiti’s situation is getting remarkably better. Better faster! That has been my prayer for the past six months. Actually, I stopped praying for myself long ago. All of my ‘good thoughts and energy’ have been for Haiti and Haiti’s people lately. No more do I get down on my knees – and ask God to ‘look out’ for me, my family, and my friends. While I need prayer, I refuse to be so self centered with my prayers. My focus is on the world’s humanity. This does not make me any different than thousands of men and women who have decided to channel their communication with a God for the benefit of those suffering. Suffering, in all my drama throughout this life, is not something I am familiar with – so why should I continue to pray for me and my mess? My praying energy needs to be with people like the young lady featured in the video below.

A good story:

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/26184891/vp/38202943#38202943

Brian E. Payne sharing.